1. Be Direct: Men are not mind readers and cannot pick up on subtleties like a woman can. We are very concise when we talk with other men and even communicate in grunts! So be specific when you talk with us.
- 2. Respect us: We don’t need your love as much as we need your respect. We need your respect to fill our heart and soul. Women expect us to love them unconditionally and men expect unconditional respect from our wife. Women who do this grab a man’s attention quickly.
3. Sexual satisfaction: Our wife is the only one we can go to for sexual release. We are not like a woman who needs intimacy to get close sexually. Men just need a physical release at times, so learn your husband’s frequency and take care of his needs so he is not vulnerable. It doesn’t need to be a Steven Spielberg production event!
4. Timing your Talk: Realize when it is a good time to approach your husband about a topic that might be sensitive and be smart about picking that time. Not when you are going out the door to something or he is doing something else! Men live in compartmented boxes. We cannot hear you if we are in our TV box watching football, newspaper reading box, playing in our gaming box, etc. You need to wait until we are fully in our wife box to communicate with us.
5. His Perspective: We need you to see things from our perspective too. If you show that you can explain our perspective to us, we are then able to be open to examining your point of view.
6. Encourage Us: We go through life viewing ourselves as your protector and provider. Men will actually die for a woman who encourages him to go back out there and fight on life’s battlefield again for you. Women, who find this power, find extraordinary success in motivating a man.
7. Woman’s Words: Men will withdraw from a woman who is making him angry by using her words in a disrespectful way. When a man withdraws from you and becomes distant, he is actually protecting you from his power. He doesn’t want to hurt you because he cares about you. In most instances, if a man would talk to your husband like you do they would be in a fight! Examine the words and emotion you used and find a more respectful approach.
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